Broken Whole

9 04 2017

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9 April 2017

When a certain idea keeps showing up, I’ve started to learn to listen to these whispers and respond. Hence, I finally made it to the library to take out the book, Broken Open, by Elizabeth Lesser. Her subtitle, How Difficult Times Can Help Us Grow, resonates with my life during the past year, which was filled with serious family health issues, problematic relationships, and closure on some situations. This was probably the most difficult year in my life, and I hope this book will help me find the silver lining in the cloud of the pain and challenges I’ve faced.

About halfway through the book, Lesser introduces the Shamanic Lover: an actual person “whose destiny is to heal the heartsick with the sweetness of love, and to give the gift of fire to those whose passion is frozen.” For her, this actual meant physical passion in the form of an extramarital affair. That is not my situation.

However, I am searching for some understanding as to why I have received such difficult visitors, both directly and to those I love. I wonder if there is a more universal application of Lesser’s term. She continues, “Sometimes the Shaman Lover has been sent by fate to blast us open, to awaken the dead parts of our body, to deliver the kiss of life.” She continues with ways that both birth and death have stirred the pot, so to speak. She suggests that these are opportunities to see one’s shadow, the darker side.

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I step back to consider these concepts and determine what makes sense to me, both in a logical but also in an emotional way. Which brings me to solidify my interpretation of Lesser’s concept. Often, one part of us is stronger than the rest. We are logical thinkers, with little access to our heart. We are compassionate and connected with others, but we pay little attention to our body. We are Olympic athletes but unable to open our hearts or talk about anything except our specific sport. Any permutation of head-heart-body-spirit imbalance. There are a bunch of them.

Along comes a crisis. It could be anyone or anything.

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And the crisis that breaks you apart brings into the forefront the part of you that is out of balance. Maybe you’re too serious. Or not introspective enough. Or too self-focused. Or always putting others ahead of yourself. It becomes obvious and you learn how your head-spirit-body-heart can all contribute equally to your life.

In essence, through a painful process, you end up in balance. Broken whole.

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A Life of Legacy

3 04 2017

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4 April 2017

Recently, I attended a presentation at the Mercy Center in Madison, CT, by Rabbi Daniel Cohen from Stamford. His focus was on how to create a life of legacy, one that would be remembered positively by others. He used a process he called Reverse Engineering: decide why you are here and lead the life now in the way you want to be remembered.

What would that type of life look like? What are some of Cohen’s guiding suggestions?

Live a life of Radical Amazement. This, defined by Abraham Joshua Heschel, is to: “get up in the morning and look at the world in a way that takes nothing for granted. Everything is phenomenal; everything is incredible; never treat life casually. To be spiritual is to be amazed.” This highlights the sanctity and importance of every moment. Appreciate that every day, every hour is a blessing. Live inspired.

Do it now. Cohen cites a line from the Ethics of Our Fathers (a compilation of rabbinical teachers from the third century): If not now, when?

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Bring your piece of light to your actions. We each have the opportunity to make an indelible impact on another person by being at the right place and the right time and doing the right thing. Cohen calls this “the Elijah moment,” based on the Prophet Elijah who was considered a helper when in distress. Cohen’s Elijah moment is a peak instant when we felt touched by the hand of God to do a particular action. In that way, we have acted as God’s agents, partners in bringing acts of kindness to the moment. At these times, two souls connect to transform that instant into an eternal moment to significantly change that person’s life and our own. We need to understand our holy mission, that no encounter is random, no meeting is coincidental.

Cohen also emphasized that every decision we make counts and needs to be based on our principles. Authentic choices are courageous, while compromise can detract from our principles.

See the Elijah in everyone. Cohen encouraged the audience to remember the importance of appreciating the infinite potential and capacity in every human being. It is our task to see everyone as a potential Elijah.

In summary, Cohen suggests our ripples of kindness extend beyond that particular moment. Every obstacle is opportunity for growth. He quotes Mark Twain: “The two most important days of your life? The day you were born, and the day you understand why.” When we are the Elijah, and see the Elijah in others, we will make bigger impact, we will live inspired lives and enrich our families. And we will know we can be remembered. We will be living a Life of Legacy.

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My cousin is researching the motivation behind a large number of this country’s leading Buddhists coming from Jewish backgrounds. For me, Rabbi Cohen has shed some light on this question in reframing traditional Hebrew texts in current-day language. Using the need to be present, pay it forward, and perform random acts of kindness, Cohen has matched modern terms with ancient spiritual traditions of both Judaism and Buddhism. Perhaps it’s the similar basic underpinnings that allow many of these modern Jews to be attracted to the Buddhist principles.





Abundance

1 04 2017

For the sixth year, I am participating in the April A to Z Blog Challenge (I encourage you to check it out, if you’ve never seen it). My overarching theme is A Good Life and this year’s focus is on Affirmations: a daily post with an affirmation to contribute towards a Good Life. Affirmations are simple messages of truth and love that provide a positive atmosphere in which to live. They describe a desired situation and, when repeated, can impact us in a positive way.

If you go to my site, you can sign up to follow this blog and get an email each day of April with an affirmation. Here’s today’s:

Source: Abundance